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What is a Biblical Marriage?
What is marriage? Altho I have left Christianity and no longer believe in the Bible, I have nonetheless years ago did a study about mariage in the Bible, of which the partial results are included in this short article. I am simply sharing with you the Bible's explanation, which is not mine. 

I discovered what a Biblical marriage is by getting my Strongs concordance and going through every place in the Bible that involved marriage and a dowry and I was surprised at what I found: It is the act of sexual intercourse that makes you married! So the question "Is it OK for a couple to have premarital sex?" is a pointless question because it is the act of sex that makes you married, so it is impossible to have premarital sex. So Christians need to apologise to people that they have wrongly accused of "living in adultery".

Genesis 29:21-30: And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, that I may go in unto her. And Laban gathered together all the men of the place, and made a feast. And it came to pass in the evening, that he took Leah his daughter, and brought her to him; and he went in unto her. And Laban gave unto his daughter Leah Zilpah his maid for a handmaid. And it came to pass, that in the morning, behold, it was Leah: and he said to Laban, What is this thou hast done unto me? did not I serve with thee for Rachel ? wherefore then hast thou beguiled me? And Laban said, It must not be so done in our country, to give the younger before the firstborn. Fulfil her week, and we will give thee this also for the service which thou shalt serve with me yet seven other years. And Jacob did so, and fulfilled her week: and he gave him Rachel his daughter to wife also.

Notice these phrases: . . .
he took Leah his daughter, and brought her to him; and he went in unto her. . . . he gave him Rachel his daughter to wife also. . . And he went in also unto Rachel . . .

Both women were not his wives until he had intercourse with them. Now let's move to Deuteronomy 22:28-29: If a man find a damsel that is a virgin, which is not betrothed, and lay hold on her, and lie with her, and they be found; then the man that lay with her shall give unto the damsel’s father fifty shekels of silver, and she shall be his wife; because he hath humbled her, he may not put her away all his days. The giving of 50 shekels of silver is the dowry. What made her his wife? A ceremony, and written (unenforcable) contract, a court? It was intercourse that made them husband and wife. Here is a problem with the Christian teaching that you need a marriage license before having sex. A license comes through a court, even if performed in a church. There is no Biblical basis for requiring a legal contract issued by a court.

Furthermore, a "marriage" as recognized by courts is a fraud because is it not two people who are being married, but two corporations forming a subsidiary corporation. A "divorce" is the dissolving of that subsidiary corporation. In law, whether you realize this or not, "you" are not you, but instead, "you" (who you think is the real you) is a corporation that was created using your name without your permission and created without your knowledge. In short, "you" (as the court views "you') are a corporation, not a living man. The legal term "corporation" is derived from two Latin words: corpus (meaning a corpse) and orat (meaning to speak). As the court sees you, "you" are a corpse that speaks. Courts only have legal duristiction over corporations. If however you represent youself in court as a living man, the court has no power or authority over you because you are outside of their duristiction (you are not dead). You can commit murder, yet if you represent yourself in court as a living man the court cannot hear the case and must release you. The world's expert on this subject is Dean Clifford who has many lectures on Youtube about this. The downside of him is his filthy language, otherwise he is worth listening to. Now to get back to the Biblical instances of marriage.

We find in 1 Corinthians 6:15-16: Know ye not that your bodies are the members of Christ? shall I then take the members of Christ, and make them the members of a harlot? God forbid. What ! know ye not that he which is joined to a harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh.

What has made them husband and wife? A ring on the fingers, a ceremony, alegal contract? None of these. It was sex.

Now go to 1 Cor 7: 25, 28  . . . Now concerning virgins I have no commandment of the Lord . . . if a virgin marry,
she hath not sinned . . .

Notice that he did not say "Now concerning unmarried women". If you are a virgin the you are unmarried, hence he did not need to state this. This is because if you had intercourse with a man then you are married and no longer a virgin.

V.34: There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit : but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

Here again is the same idea: he did not have to say "between a wife and an unmarried woman".

Which is better: A Christian couple who legally "marry" (get a sex license), then divorce, then each remary someone else ( get additional sex licenses), or a couple who do not legally "marry" (have no sex license) yet truly love each other, are faithful, and stay together for their entire lives in a loving and caring relationship? 

I do not like to use the term marriage because of the connotations involved. Instead I prefer the term polarity. A polarity is not two distinct entities, but rather one entity. As an example of what I mean, try separating the two sides of a coin. if you destroy one side you destroy both and the whole coin ceases to exist. There is no such thing as a one-sided coin. My position has been consistent right from the start in that it is wrong to break up a family, and that when a man and woman make a commitment, they need to keep it. A commitment is a commitment is a commitment. A commitment exists whether it is stated or not, or whether it is apparent or not. The issue here is that of maturity and responsibility. It is a serious thing to make a commitment to someone of the opposite sex. If we are not honest about it and have the right motives, and do not intend to keep it, then we shd not have made that commitment in the first place.

In the following example the circumstances are different, but the principle involved is the same. Try borrowing money from a bank then unilaterally decidng that you want to break the commitment to pay it back, and see what happens! Yet people do not take seriously the commitment that they make to the opposite sex, and they avoid their responsibility to follow thru with it. The fact is that they were not commited in the first place. They cannot blame anyone else for this, any more than someone can blame the bank for them not paying back their loan. It's an issue of honesty, responsibility, maturity, integrity, and correct or incorrect motives.

The common understanding of marriage is wrong. In reality marriage does not exist. Let me explain: Supposing that I get a loan from the bank, then later I go to a judge and ask him to cancel my commitment to the bank to pay back the money. Of course a judge will not do this, yet courts do this for marriage to allow people to avoid their commitments. A marriage cannot exist because if it can be voided, then there is nothing binding it together and therefore it cannot exist, any more than a loan agreement can exist if it is not binding and a judge can simply void it. Banks wd stop borrowing money. The coming together of a man and woman is in reality based purely on the honesty, character, integrity, maturity, and responsibility of each. A "marriage" is only a piece of paper and has no value. The only thing that has value is the character, integrity, maturity, and responsibility of the man and woman.

When anyone breaks a commitment they have no one to blame but themselves, despite hiding behind excuses or legal "reasons". A judge can declare that a woman can murder her baby, but does that make it right? We have to get away from this idea that anything that is legal is also right, and that the courts are "God's servants" which is a wrong teaching of Christianity (read Romans chapter 13). Courts are used to rubber stamp wrong doing and to justify evil.
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